The Power of Commitment to Yourself: How you do one thing is how you do everything!
In a world full of external demands, responsibilities, and societal pressures, it’s easy to overlook one of the most important commitments you can make—the commitment to yourself. Often, we pour energy into relationships, careers, or the well-being of others, but what about our own needs, goals, and aspirations?
At its core, commitment to yourself is about honoring your promises, fostering self-respect, and embracing the journey toward personal growth and empowerment. As I always say how we do one thing is how we do everything so if you are finding you are attracting flaky friends, non comital partners and still not getting that promotion, thats all a refection of the commitment you have to yourself!
So how do we cultivate this inner dedication, and why is it so essential for our mental and emotional well-being?
P.S I created a podcast episode about this if you would rather listen instead! Listen here.
What Does It Mean to Be Committed to Yourself?
Being committed to yourself doesn’t mean being selfish or ignoring others. It’s about recognising that you are worthy of the same time, effort, and care you give to those around you. It’s the practice of setting boundaries, prioritising your mental and physical health, and staying true to your values and desires.
It can look like:
Setting goals that align with your true passions and following through with action.
Creating daily habits that nurture your well-being, such as meditation, journaling, or exercising - you know I love a ritual.
Establishing boundaries that protect your time and energy, even when it’s difficult - I’ll say this until I’m blue in the face!
Why Is It So Hard to Stay Committed to Yourself?
Self-commitment can often be more challenging than committing to external goals. Why? Because we’re not always held accountable by others. When it comes to personal development, there’s often no external validation, which can make it easy to deprioritise ourselves.
Other common barriers include:
Fear of failure: We often fear letting ourselves down more than others.
Self-doubt: Lack of confidence in our abilities can make it difficult to follow through.
People-pleasing tendencies: We might feel guilty for putting our needs ahead of others'.
Recognising these challenges is the first step toward breaking free from them. Be honest you are not a machine and as I always say, we can trace the adoption of lack of follow through to what we observed in our childhood. You may have been brought up around a people pleasing parent or even an addict that told you they would quit their vice but never did creating the belief in your mind that people don’t change. They do if they want to and if they see the value in the change itself! If you could see the tangible outcome, if you could see yourself a year from now living the aspirations you have created now, knowing how happy and fulfilled you were it would be a solid incentive right? I have a FREE masterclass that shows you HOW to create a fail proof accountability plan and what that future you looks like. Watch here.
5 Ways to Strengthen Your Commitment to Yourself
Start Small
Self-commitment isn’t about making huge, radical changes overnight. It’s about the small daily choices that add up. Whether it’s dedicating 10 minutes a day to mindfulness or slowly implementing healthier habits, starting small can make the journey sustainable. 1% every day!Set Boundaries with Others
In order to honor your own needs, you must learn to say “no” when necessary. This could be declining an extra project at work or setting aside time for self-care despite social obligations. See my other blogs for more on boundaries!Celebrate Progress
Instead of waiting until you’ve reached a major milestone, celebrate your small wins along the way. Every time you follow through with a personal goal—whether it’s sticking to a workout routine or spending a few minutes meditating—you strengthen your commitment to yourself.Embrace Self-Compassion
No one is perfect. There will be days when you fall short or struggle to keep a promise to yourself. Rather than being overly critical, practice self-compassion. Acknowledge the setback, learn from it, and get back on track without judgment. I break down hoe to reframe our limiting beliefs in my FREE masterclass!Create a Support System
While commitment to yourself is an individual journey, it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Surround yourself with people who respect and encourage your goals. Whether it’s a friend, a coach, or a community, having external support can reinforce your commitment.
Why It Matters: The Impact of Self-Commitment on Mental Health
When you commit to yourself, you reinforce your sense of self-worth and personal agency. This has a direct impact on your mental health. You begin to trust yourself more, feel more capable of handling challenges, and experience a deeper sense of purpose. It’s through self-commitment that we unlock our true potential. It has always been there inside of us! When we trust ourself we stop looking outwardly for answers and validation because we know that we are/have the solution.
Commitment to yourself is not a one-time decision but a lifelong practice. It requires continuous focus, reflection, and growth. However, as you build this muscle, you’ll find that the rewards are profound. Your relationship with yourself will deepen, and this internal alignment will ripple outward, positively influencing every single area of your life.
So, today, make the choice to show up for yourself. You are worth the commitment! Remember if nothing changes nothing changes.
If you are ready to start committing to you so much so that future you thanks past you, watch my FREE masterclass here.
Love and light xx