New year MORE you!
Now I am not knocking anyone for wanting to be a new version of themselves as the new year rolls in, my view however is you don’t need to be a new version of you, you need to be MORE of who you truly are …
Happy New Year by the way! Astrologically the new year doesn’t begin until spring, but in the western world we align the new year with the 1st of jan and so here we are!
When I refer to being “more you” what I am referring to is your authentic self, not the version of you you have become to fit in with society, to please your family or, the version of yourself that you thought you had to be. I am speaking about the you within, the you that has been dying to be set free, the you that is passionate about something, the you that knows they are worthy and deserving of more. - That you!
I speak about this often, life shapes us in all different ways, I think the older we get the more adulting, the 9-5, distances us from our true essence of happiness, we simply find it maybe only a few times a year on holiday or during your time off, but honestly, happiness should flow continuously through our daily life. This comes from living in our purpose.
So how do you find your purpose and the happiness you deserve? - I believe they are intersected!
Before I dive into the how however, I wanted to leave a disclaimer. Like anything I teach this is not the fluffy quick fix how, this is the deep dive, getting to the root of your blocks and dismantling them so they no longer stand in your way how!
How - You unlearn, dismantle and rebuild!
Ive said it before and I’ll say it again but our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. our subconscious mind dictates our whole world, so in order to change your life you need to change your thought patterns!
Now this is a journey in itself and this is the work I support my 1:1 clients with. So if you would like further support and guidance please do reach out, but the steps below will be a stepping stone to finding self awaness which ultimately leads to you reclaiming your power! My journal is available through my website and Etsy and I have a self study available which assist with this too!
Unlearn - societal expectations, your families expectation, outdated narratives you’ve been told (you need to have it all figured out by 25)
Ask yourself
If you could be and do anything you wanted what would it be?
Who told you you couldn’t achieve that goal or dream?
What is standing in the way of you going for that dream?
Who told you you wasn’t good enough?
Who are you trying to please?
Dismantle - childhood trauma, insecurities, feelings of unworthiness.
Your subconscious thoughts develop in childhood and unless you’ve taken the journey inwards to find the connection you’ll be blissfully unaware of how your childhood experiences are potentially blocking your adult life.
Ask yourself
What emotions did I feel growing up? (unworthy, ignored, shy,)
What happened in my childhood to make me feel that way? (home environment, a specific parent, bullying at school)
What story am I telling myself about why I am not where I want to be/happy? (I’ll be happy if I had this, or didn’t do this)
Whats the worst case scenario, if I don’t go for what I want would happen?
Why you?
Why not you?
Rebuild - Your self worth and mindset and everything else as a result will flourish.
Now we’ve created internal space and found understanding through joining the dots between our thoughts and emotions, we can start to rebuild our thought patterns from a space of self awareness. More than anything I hope you can see
Connect to your highest outcome. Think about
What does the happiest version of you feel, look, smell, act like?
What needs to change in order for you to receive that?
Create affirmations that align with who you want to be and repeat them continuously!
If you can see yourself being a healthy person that exercises regularly, enjoys lovely meals, goes on beautiful holidays and is surrounded by people that love them, affirmations like the ones below will help your subconscious bring it into your current reality.
I am worthy of happiness
I am deserving of the love I give out
Everything I desire desires me more
I take care of my body and my body takes care of me
I enjoy the finer things in life because I am worthy and deserving of them
Life gets to be easy for me
Happiness is everywhere I look
I am a magnet for success and happiness.
To summarise, I believe the root to happiness is being clear on what it is you want, thats where your purpose is, its who you truly are. Having clarity inspires your actions, aligning you with the opportunities and circumstances that you desire. But in order to find that clarity you need to remove the blocks, the set backs and low vibrations that have held you back for so long. Everything you desire to be lives fully within you, you just have to dig deep enough to let it out!
I have a meditation on YouTube to connect you with your higher self. For a day of self care journal on the prompt above and complete the meditation. Please do reach out and let me know what came up for you! Watch here.
If the prompts were helpful you can purchase my journal and worksheets here.
If anything I have mentioned above struck a cord in you please do reach out I would love to support you you can contact me here.
Wishing you a 2024 filled with blessing and opportunities, I hope this is the year that you become your most truest self, I hope this is the year you stop dimming your light for others and instead you let your light shine brightly into the world.
Love and light,