“I’m Triggered” A Love Letter to the High-Achieving Woman Who’s Outgrown Her Old Life

You’ve built everything. The business. The brand. The lifestyle.
The version of you that once felt like a dream, she’s now your reality.

And yet…

You’re triggered. Not by failure. Not by competition. But by the chaos. By emotional immaturity. By people who don’t honour your time, your space, or even themselves.

You’ve become allergic to anything that smells like instability.
And you’re wondering, “Is it me? Am I being harsh? Have I become too much?”

Let me tell you something your soul already knows: You’re not triggered. You’re evolving.

This is something I personally noticed in myself recently and instead of identifying this trigger as a mark of where I still have to grow I saw it as a reminder from where I have grown from.

The Hidden Cost of Being “The Strong One”

Here’s what no one tells you about becoming the grounded one, the healed one, the successful one: Your body starts to reject what you used to tolerate, as I always say everything and everyone is a mirror of a part of you or in this case a past version of you. The friend who trauma-dumps every time you speak. The team member who drains your energy. The client who crosses your boundaries because “you’re so nice.” You feel it in your nervous system.

Don’t see this as more for you to process, you’ve done the work you’ve moved through your trauma, you’ve built a life that reflects your values. So why does it still feel so… heavy?

The Truth? You’re Grieving Your Old Self

There’s a part of you that remembers when you were the over-giver. The people-pleaser.
The woman who called it “loyalty” or “being a good person”, when it was really just self-abandonment in disguise. Thats why you can’t bare to watch other people drown in that sea of self sacrifice and why the women who still have not set boundaries in their lives, infuriate you.

And that feeling? It’s a sign, a sign that the old version of you is dying. You’ve let go and released!
And grief is part of the process. It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re rising.

Let’s Call It What It Is: Martyrdom

You used to wear over-responsibility like a badge of honour.
“I just care deeply.”
“I can handle it.”
“This is what being a strong woman looks like.”

But underneath that?

Martyrdom.

A quiet addiction to being needed. A survival strategy dressed up as compassion. A fear that if you stop doing everything for everyone, you’ll be… alone, or everything would crumble. You know how I know that, because I lived it. And the most heartbreaking thing is, that we felt this was the only way to be successful, to be appreciated and valued if we were doing. What do we know about doing? Its Masculine! That’s why its uncomfortable its unnatural to stay in our masculine energy for long bursts of time.

And here’s the thing the woman you’re becoming? She doesn’t operate from fear, she leads from her divine feminine, her feelings, from deep-rooted self-trust. The grieving of the old self is uncomfortable as it requires you to remember, but what is important here, is to discern and not judge yourself for the behaviours you participated in when you were in survival mode (when you didn’t know any better).

And this trigger may make you feel like you're judging the women that are still in it but you aren’t, (unless you are shaming them, which I don’t think you’d be reading a blog from me if you were!)
You’re just not available for the same patterns you once were. You’ve upgraded your frequency and your boundaries upgraded with it.

This is the truth about transformation no one talks about:

✨ You outgrow dynamics.
✨ You outgrow relationships.
✨ You outgrow the parts of yourself that used to feel safe.

It’s not personal. It’s energetic.

You didn’t come here to stay in survival.
You came here to lead and honestly the people that respect you and honour you will rise with you or they will admire you from a far. You know your energy is sacred thats why you are protecting it.

How can you lead if you’re still bleeding in silence? That is why I have been dedicated to heal out loud!

Your Standards Aren’t “Too Much” They’re Sacred

Let’s name it clearly:

🚫 You’re no longer available for people who drain you.
🧱 You crave depth, devotion, and discernment, in business, in love, in your environment.
📉 You say no to anything that destabilises your nervous system, no matter how “nice” it looks on paper.

This isn’t about being hard or cold. It’s about honouring your energy as sacred.

You didn’t do all this inner work just to carry the same burdens in a prettier outfit.

You’re here to embody a new paradigm of power: One rooted in softness, self-respect, and unshakable boundaries.

So, What Now?

You’ve evolved.
But this next chapter isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being more anchored in who you already are.

The version of you that doesn’t need to prove.
That leads from presence.
That creates results through alignment, not force.

This is where your true magic lives.
And this is what RISE was created for.

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Who holds her standards with grace.
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If your body knows it’s time, don’t overthink it.

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You weren’t meant to stay in survival.
You were meant to rise.