How Feminism Lied to Millennial Women and the Path Back to Power

I’ve spent the last 5 to 6 years unlearning…

Unlearning what strength actually means. Unlearning what it means to be a woman. Unlearning the idea that I had to prove myself to be equal by being more: more productive, more powerful, more emotionally bulletproof.

And here’s the uncomfortable truth I’m standing in now:

A lot of what Millennial women were taught about feminism wasn’t actually rooted in freedom. It was rooted in survival. In trauma. In the very patriarchal systems we were trying to escape.

Let me be clear, I believe in feminism. I believe in the equality of the sexes, in the right to be valued for your essence, your brilliance, your skill, not your gender. True feminism, to me, is about honour. It’s about agency. It’s about mutual respect. But the version many of us inherited, especially as Millennials, was distorted.

We were told we had to be stronger than men. That we had to outdo them to be worthy of a seat at the table. That softness was weakness. That independence meant I don’t need anyone. That relying on a man was regression. That emotion was irrational. That power meant hardness.

And we bought it.

I did. I remember it vividly… belting out "I don't need a man" songs with my friends, arm-wrestling the boys in the playground (and on nights out in my 20’s), puffing my chest with pride when someone said, “you’re not like other girls.” As if that were a compliment.

I shaped myself around the idea that the only way to be respected was to become a version of masculinity, but in heels. To win at the game that wasn’t even designed for us.

But here’s the thing. That game was never ours.

Patriarchal systems that once silenced women also shaped the rebellion because the resistance was a reaction, not a reclamation. And in that reaction, we overcorrected. We began to chase dominance instead of balance. We created hierarchy where we longed for harmony. And that has created deep exhaustion and emotional burnout in generations of women who are only just now waking up to what happened.

We weren’t wrong for fighting back. We were surviving. But now? Now it’s time to lead differently.

The future isn’t about proving we’re better. It’s about remembering we were never meant to compete in the first place.

The feminine and the masculine are not enemies. They are complements. The feminine being and the masculine doing. The receiving and the creating. The flow and the structure. These forces live in all of us, regardless of gender I’m actually talking about energy and when we honour them both, we rise in wholeness.

This is the movement I’m devoted to.
Not just empowering women to reclaim their power but helping them remember the origin of it.
Not a reaction. Not a rebellion. But a sacred remembrance.

We dismantle patriarchy not by becoming men, but by anchoring into our divine feminine truth.

We create equality not by rising above, but by rising together.

And yes, this takes work. This takes accountability. This takes discernment. Because we’ve been fed so many stories, through media, music, corporate culture, even “empowerment” spaces that taught us how to be palatable, performative, perfect.

But you are allowed to question it all.
To detach from the conditioning.
To come back home to your truth.

And if you’re ready to lead from that place, your inner power, your embodied wisdom, your deep feminine knowing… this is your invitation to join me.

Inside my Inner Power Portal, we are birthing a new era. One that honours the power of softness, the brilliance of balance, and the radical act of union over division.

We are women leading differently, not from pain, but from peace.

Because true leadership isn’t about being louder.

It’s about being rooted.

It’s about being whole.

And it’s time.

Are you coming?

Join the movement.
The Inner Power Portal is now open.
Step in, soften in, and rise.